One piece of advice for the new mom.

I've been a mom 3-years and 4-months now, and I can tell you, I have changed.

Old me was a resource-hound. Any little thing I deemed a problem with my child (sleep, eat, illness, behavioral) you name it, I was online and finding the solution. I spent way too much time and energy stressing about, well, what exactly? I wasn't worrying about problems per say, more like looking for problems. This ushered in by the "comparison game": why is her baby sleeping at 6-weeks, and mine 6-months? Why isn't breastfeeding working for me? Why is my son falling back on the growth chart?

And now, here I am almost 11-months into baby number two (GASP) and a TOTALLY different, MUCH happier mama. For all who were wondering, it turns out baby's just sleep through the night at different ages, because, you know, they're different people, nursing isn't a breeze for everyone, and well, we just make short babies. Now I don't just know, but I understand that every child is different. If I could go back and give new-mom-me a piece of advice, it would be: put the book down, and don't worry so much.

My mom-mantra is grace and my mom-motto hangs on these three beliefs:

• First, 'this too shall pass.' Seriously! Your child WILL sleep through the night, AND eventually be potty trained. I promise.
• Second, we find our mom-joy in the little moments with our kids - and THIS sustains us through challenging times. Little voices saying "I love you mommy," happy smiles and coos. Small, easily missed moments are our life-line.
• And finally, any type of parenting revolves around a whole lot of trial and error. Baby not napping well at 9am? Put her down earlier and see if that works. And by the time you figure it out, guess what, she'll change her schedule once again because, haha! So is life with a baby.

I can't be sure, but I believe my second has greatly benefited from my laid-back shift in parenting. Nothing is ever a big deal or a problem to be solved, it is simply a baby being a baby.

So, to you new mamas, as a recovering by-the-book-mom, heed my advice and soak in the imperfect moments. Know your child is perfectly made and you are doing a great job. Simplify parenting; follow your intuition and the lead of your baby. Don't be a slave to books or the comparison game. You will be less stressed, your child will be less stressed, and your family will be much happier.

WW: Tonights take-away from the Style Network...

Tonight I spent the night husband-less so obviously I watched reality television. Tonight: Guiliana & Bill. They showed the birth of their child by a surrogate (which happened to be at the same hospital where we delivered) and the first few weeks at home. It was so special to watch!

The past couple of days I've been starting to think about Cooper's first birthday party, and tonight, I was reminded of his first few days here with us. Surreal. I mean he's almost one year old. Already.

[caption id="attachment_807" align="aligncenter" width="4272"] Cooper, Day One.[/caption]
It was funny reading my first blog entry about Cooper and now, 9-months later, I just can't imagine life without him in it.

Thinking back on his newborn days brought back lots of memories. Now, CLEARLY, I cherished every memory ever made with CPK during those first few weeks, but there are a few things that, well, I don't miss- like waking up every three hours and yellow poop...for starters. There's a switch that happens, or at least it happened for me, when you realize that life will never be the same. One of the first books I read to Cooper was when he was just a few days old was "I'll Love You Forever." Have you read it? A rookie mistake on my part and I was in tears by the second page. Life had new meaning.



"The moment a child is born, a mother is born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new." -Rajneesh

I love this quote. But if we take it literally than clearly we moms should have some training prior to our "mom-birth." 5 things I wish I'd known?

1. Buy the nap-nanny. It's worth it.
2. Have the breast pump handy by day 5. You'll need it. (Sorry boys).
3. Newborn pics? Don't need to take longer than an hour.
4. Those little "Peepee Teepees" DON'T work. Babies move y'all and teepees fall.
5. When people say "This too shall pass"...they mean it.

What'd I miss ladies??

From one day old to soon one YEAR old, this kid truly is the light of my life; and being his mom has been my greatest joy.

Health and hope,
Lauren